July 27, 2012
What is the implication of constant references to oral sex?  Is the implication:
a)  I respect you.  I think of you as an entire person, and not just as a body part.  I am able to talk with you intelligently about a variety of things other than sex.
b)  You should just be grateful for the fact that anyone wants to do that for you.  Therefore, even if you find the references offensive and demeaning and are not attracted to the person who is making those references, you should smile and say “Thank you.”
Let’s say that the answer to the question is “b,” which I happen to think that it is.  What does that imply?  Does that imply that normal, healthy vaginas are:
a)  Disgusting
b)  Not disgusting

I’m speaking about this in terms of references that are being made about women and women’s bodies, because women are the ones being treated as if they should have no say about what gets said about them and to them.  There’s nothing about those references that is respectful or supportive of women.

Copyright L. Kochman, July 27, 2012 @ 8:54 a.m.